| Bedroom matters |
[Nov. 6th, 2009|10:46 pm] |
When I mention to people that I'm in a triad relationship (which I'll now update to quad, though I don't expect it'll change anything), the most common question I get asked is "So how does that work?"
My flippant answer is "Quite well!" But then I usually follow that up by explaining that it's just like a two-person relationship times 1.5 2, which seems to be satisfactory.
The second most common question is "How do you sleep?"
And since there seems to be an interest, and I mentioned it in a meme-comment today, I thought I'd share.
At the moment, Greg is sleeping on the side nearest the window, which is where the fan is, because he's a furnace and will overheat otherwise. I'm on the other side, Robb is in the middle, and Jerry is in Japan. We each have our own set of covers. (Which is a good thing, since I don't think we have any blankets wide enough to span the Pacific.) |
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| Quadrature |
[Nov. 4th, 2009|07:42 am] |
So, back when Greg & Jerry & I formed a triad, Alice asked me if we would ever consider adding a fourth.
I remember saying that I didn't think it was completely out of the question, if we ever met the right person and all that, but we certainly weren't planning on it. I mean, three is plenty!
Of course, Jerry & I didn't plan on adding Greg, either; as with all the long-term poly relationships I know of, it just kinda... happened.
Um.
It, ah, kinda just happened... again.
( I blame Simon Pegg. )
So long story short, there's this guy, his name is Robb, we think he's pretty awesome, and last night he got on a bus and now he's on his way here to join us.
And we're looking for a house.
...and how was your weekend?
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| Back! |
[Nov. 3rd, 2009|02:56 am] |
Had a completely lovely trip, but for all the actual travel parts.
10 hours in the airport on Thursday to fly standby because they cancelled our original flight due to snow. 1.5 hours on the tarmac tonight due to a broken valve of some kind. Way too much driving in heinous L.A. traffic.
BUT! Everything else was really, really good. More to come. |
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| Snowing, Going... something else ending in O-ing |
[Oct. 28th, 2009|09:05 pm] |
It is snowing... well, not like crazy, really, but a lot. I didn't go in to work this morning, and around noon they announced that everything was closing at 2. But I brushed the car off this afternoon, and just now walked to Target & back, and things haven't gotten significantly worse. The snow is coming down, but it's not heavy wet stuff, and the wind is blowing enough that the car has stayed cleaned off.
The power went out for a bit around 5, so while there was still some light we busted out the little battery-powered lanterns & hastened to get things packed. And then the power came back on, so that's good.
Now I need to pay bills, because tomorrow we are off to Los Angeles for the weekend, hooray! I'm really looking forward to the trip. I need some vacation. |
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| Triple miscellany makes a post |
[Oct. 26th, 2009|12:25 am] |
Greg streamed several episodes of Sanctuary this afternoon. It wasn't bad, it just.. had a lot of potential that it kept failing to live up to.
The Lily Allen song "The Fear" has the line "I'll look at the sun and I'll look in the mirror". Which is absolutely brilliant once you realize that because the song is about fame and fortune, it's actually "I'll look at The Sun and I'll look in The Mirror".
I went to the gym yesterday and I think I overdid it with the lat pulldowns. And then I went to D&D and we had a fairly hardcore combat session. Thomas joined via skype on my laptop, and it worked pretty well.
This post is about little nothings because if it were about all the big somethings currently inhabiting my todo list, it would get in the way of me not thinking about it. Which I kinda need to (not) do right now, because there's enough of it to make me all cranky & contrarian. |
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| Maternal |
[Oct. 20th, 2009|10:00 pm] |
Okay, only a little catch-up, because I have a nasty headache.
This was the last weekend for visiting with my mom. They've been here for more than a month, but it seems like they only got here last week. They headed out this morning, back to Alaska. (I had a bit of a cry last night -- about many things, including missing Jerry and just some general stress relief, but Mom leaving was one of them.)
We went out to dinner on... Friday? Yeah, Friday, because it was before D&D. Got pho at one of the local places. Talked about plans and collected some useful maternal advice.
And then Saturday morning I picked up her & my step-dad & my step-sister's son (whom they were watching while Leslie was working) and we went over to a restaurant in Arvada for a birthday luncheon for my grandmother. My parents got divorced when I was 5, but Grandma (she's my paternal grandmother) has always retained a special fondness of Mom. Everyone had nametags that listed their relationship to Grandma, and Mom wrote "daughter-ish" on hers. (My nephew Layne got "great-grandson - sorta", which frankly is a lot easier than "ex-daughter-in-law's step-daughter's son". Larry just got "best man".)
Anyway, it was a very nice lunch. Almost entirely elderly women. One of the women, Barbara, plays the accordion, and after Happy Birthday, she played a bunch of sing-along songs. I thought it was interesting that I knew all of them, even though none of them have been on the radio since long before I was born. It's funny to think that at one time those songs were popular hits. In 50 years, will we be having sing-alongs to Britney Spears' "Toxic"?
And then Sunday was some more (unrelated) D&D stuff (because my calendar is clearly not overloaded enough yet), and in the evening, I went down to my cousin's place in Stapleton for some family birthday stuff. Got to see the aunt & uncle who couldn't make it Saturday, plus their children. Brought home Olive Garden leftovers.
And then last night just as I was heading home, I got a call from an entirely different cousin (on the totally other side of the family) so I went and picked him up -- and let me just say, Louisville, y'all need to spend some municipal funds on decent street signage, because what you have right now TEH SUCK -- and we had elk burgers over at my brother's. Helped my niece with her chemistry homework. Watched a little bit of the football game. And then it was time to say bye to parents and dogs, and this morning they're headed north again... |
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| (no subject) |
[Oct. 18th, 2009|10:22 pm] |
Dear LJ,
Wow, stuff. I need to play some serious catch-up, but for now I think I'll just say that I'm here, and tired, but things are good. Yeah. |
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| (no subject) |
[Oct. 13th, 2009|09:32 pm] |
Bryree & Marty had a wedding reception this weekend, which was quite delightful, especially given that it was done on post-doc budget. Kinda low-key -- friends, cake, legos, board games. Very nice. I brought my laptop and Jerry was able to join in by Skype from his trip to Nara! That was pretty dang awesome.
And then Mom & I took my grandmother out to dinner last night, because it's her birthday soon. She's turning 95 (!). Interesting fact, Grandma no longer has fingerprints. They have worn off. Anyway, we had a very nice time, and it was great to get to see her. There's also a bit of a surprise dinner for her this coming weekend, so that'll be nice also.
There was a gathering to go see Zombieland tonight, and I dithered and eventually decided it didn't fit my mood, so I came home and watched my netflix'd Bourne Supremacy instead. I noticed, while watching, that I think I'm getting better at... hmm... I was going to say reading the unspoken, but maybe it's actually noticing more consciously when a movie is communicating information via shot composition and camera angles instead of via dialogue. |
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| C S I R O |
[Oct. 8th, 2009|08:41 pm] |
You guys, you guys! Omigod, you guys!
The CSIRO is Australia's national science agency.
THIS is quite possibly one of the dorkiest things ever, and I LOVE IT SO MUCH I DON'T EVEN CARE WHAT THAT SAYS ABOUT ME!
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| Not Enough Blather, Clearly |
[Oct. 7th, 2009|09:06 pm] |
Wow, I have been busy, it would seem.
THURSDAY I went grocery shopping with my mom. You might not think this is exciting, but I they're in town and I haven't seen her much since they moved to Alaska, so it was really great just to get to hang out with her. And it was showing off POM (the gigantor asian market) and Sprouts (the place with nifty produce), so it was also sharing neat stuff, which is also fun.
FRIDAY I went to Van & Ron's for a movie night, which was excellent. We watched Wallace & Grommit flicks -- A Matter of Loaf & Death and Curse of the Were-Rabbit. The density of great physical humor in those movies is just stunning.
SATURDAY I don't think I really did much of anything worth mentioning. I think I bought a couple shirts at the thrift shop. Well, unless that was Sunday. Which it might have been. But I don't think it was. Anyway!
SUNDAY we went over to the Floyds' because Josh was in town and it was Karen's birthday and it was the day before Bryree & Marty were getting married. And thanks to the magic of TEH INTARWEBZ, ![[info]](http://l-stat.livejournal.com/img/userinfo.gif) kung_fu_monkey was able to join us virtually for a bit! He called in by skype and we put the laptop on the counter and people got to say hi. It was after his Monday morning classes, so he was calling from the future! (And Skype is free. We had a lot of "ZOMG we are living in the future!" sentiment floating about.) And we played Tales of the Arabian Nights and actually finished because somebody (Josh, I think?) won!
MONDAY I was cranky, and YESTERDAY was better but fairly unremarkable, and TODAY there was a wine & cheese do at work with good cheese and bubbly fruit juice, which is always a good thing.
Oh! And Greg & I are going to LA at the end of the month! Just a long weekend to have some vacation and visit people out that way.
Annnnnd... yeah. That's probably caught you up on your blather quotient. Life is being good. |
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| Not what I meant to write about |
[Oct. 5th, 2009|11:50 pm] |
The weather today was pretty dreadful, and I spent most of the day in a really pissy mood for no readily discernible reason. As in, I would read something, or get an email that I needed to respond to, and I would experience a flash of irritation that made me think Wow, I am in a pissy mood... And I considered venting about it somewhere, but then there was the bonus annoyance of knowing that any responses would have a good chance of just irritating me further.
But I got a new keyboard (Kinesis Contour freaky ergonomic keyboard, to replace the one that is dying because it's old and because I've rolled over the cord with my chair a few too many times), and after the internet came back on this evening I WoWed a bit, so the day was all right by the end.
Yesterday, by contrast, was really excellent.
...But it's late, so I think I'll save that for tomorrow. |
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[Oct. 5th, 2009|01:20 am] |
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I have a lot to catch up on, but for now I just want to say that life is really quite good, and I'm grateful to be living in the future, in this corner of the universe, and amongst the people I count as friends. It's been a very satisfying weekend, all in all. |
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[Oct. 2nd, 2009|12:12 am] |
Quoth the Kuma: "If you're thinking about going to the gym, you should go to the gym."
Which is a very good point. So I went.
Because even a lame workout is still better than NO workout. |
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| Dream Logic |
[Sep. 30th, 2009|08:42 am] |
It was awesome to see everybody at the art showing / graduation party last night, but I would especially like to thank whoever it was that managed to slip a pair of swim trunks on me without me noticing when I found myself swimming naked. Orange isn't really my color, but that was WAY better than trying to sneak past all my deceased relatives without them noticing. Thumbs up!
Hunh. And the thing about random strangers having detailed advice for absent friends as proof of divine presence is not nearly as compelling now that I'm awake... |
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| Hello Friday! |
[Sep. 25th, 2009|11:58 pm] |
I really ran out of steam at work today, but I discovered that one of the minions has been accomplishing more than I expected. So that all cancels out, right?
My mom got hold of my vagabond hippie cousin, so I went over to visit family for dinner last night. Didn't stay long (had to come home & put together slides for a meeting this morning, ugh), but had some tasty chicken enchiladas and far more frozen mini-eclairs than I should have.
The netflixed DVD I was gonna watch this evening was unreadable, so I played the inventory management game in WoW instead. And cooked some fish. (In the kitchen, I mean. Not in the game.)
I've been carrying around the little MP3 player Jerry passed on to me while he's away in my pocket, because Mom has borrowed the newer minivan and Emma has no sound system, and it accidentally got turned on while I was walking to lunch. For about two hallways, until I figured out that it was coming from my pocket, I was very confused about who was playing music, and why it was all music that I really like... |
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| Dodgeball |
[Sep. 22nd, 2009|11:06 pm] |
So I netflixed Dodgeball for some reason. Probably because it had Alan Tudyk and Steven Root, and I think it got decent reviews. I honestly can't remember why I put it in the queue, nor why I let it drift to the top (that may well have been an accident).
It turns out, it's a pretty decent comedy. The thing I noticed being particularly good is the pacing and editing. I say this because I watched it in bits and pieces while doing other things, and I kept finding myself watching for longer than I intended, because there weren't any good stopping points.
Also, it's very aware that it's having fun with its trope without being overly wink-wink-nudge-nudge about it. Near the end, there's an object that's actually labeled "Deus Ex Machina", but it just quietly sits in the background, there for you to notice, or not.
Since I started listening to commentary tracks, I notice a lot more about the construction of film & television than I used to. It feels almost like learning to read a foreign language... |
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| Bats in Colorado |
[Sep. 22nd, 2009|12:47 am] |
Had bats22 stay with us this weekend, which was a nice excuse for several good meals. Showed him some import TV on Friday after I ditched work early (well, still with a full timecard) that afternoon.
We went for a hike with my mom on Saturday. Up the Boulder Creek Canyon path for a mile or two. My mom is a lot of fun to go hiking with because she can tell you all kinds of things about rocks and wildlife. It was very excellent. And then we drove up through Nederland and down Coal Creek Canyon and saw lots of scenery and some turning aspen.
Saturday night we saw 9 at the mondoplex. I'd say it was good-not-great. There were some things that I think could be taken as flaws that I felt were stylistic choices, and valid ones. But the story was a little thin for my liking. Very pretty though.
Sunday I dropped him off at the bus and came home and did boatloads of nothing all day long. 'Twas glorious. |
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| No Turn On Red |
[Sep. 16th, 2009|11:39 pm] |
I got a traffic citation on the way to the gym this evening.
(And I would just like to digress for a moment to point out the significance of that prepositional phrase: I have been going to the gym. Voluntarily, even!)
There was a green arrow that turned yellow, and I thought it would be followed by a straight green, so everything would be fine because there was no oncoming traffic, but no. It turned red after the arrow. And there was a police car right there.
In theory, I could go to court and probably plea bargain for a deferral or whatever, but if I mail the fine within 20 days it's only 2 points instead of 4, and it's not as if there's any confusion as to what happened. It is, as they say, a fair cop. I think the responsible thing to do is just own up to it and pay the fine.
Or, as we used to say in Teh Old Country*: Eit!
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But!
I had my moment of antisocial rebellion in response.
In the locker room after my workout, I suddenly realized that I was completely alone. There was no-one else present; no witnesses, no-one to report me.
( I knew what I had to do. ) |
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| BAH! |
[Sep. 15th, 2009|09:22 pm] |
An unproductive day and waiting too late for dinner has left me crabbish.
I have nearly put a half-dozen different paragraphs here, but it appears that all I really have to say at the moment is BAH!
And possibly 'harrumph'.
No, I think it's just bah. BAH, I say! >:{ |
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| re: re: |
[Sep. 14th, 2009|09:28 pm] |
Okay, having just been thoroughly confused detangling what was in response to what over yonder on another site, here's the new rule. Pay attention, everybody who might ever develop social software of whatever type:
If you allow comments? Thread them.
Period.
I don't care if it's more work. I don't care if it doesn't play nicely with your infrastructure. When people are saying things, they're usually saying them in response to something else that has been said, and making it easy to see how these things line up with one another is essential to the actual "communication" part of that whole saying stuff thing you're enabling. Otherwise it's all just half a cell-phone conversation in public, which is both useless and annoying.
Comments are threaded. ALWAYS.
I have decreed it! Now make it so! |
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