||[Nov. 6th, 2009|10:46 pm]
When I mention to people that I'm in a triad relationship (which I'll now update to quad, though I don't expect it'll change anything), the most common question I get asked is "So how does that work?"|
My flippant answer is "Quite well!" But then I usually follow that up by explaining that it's just like a two-person relationship times
1.5 2, which seems to be satisfactory.
The second most common question is "How do you sleep?"
And since there seems to be an interest, and I mentioned it in a meme-comment today, I thought I'd share.
At the moment, Greg is sleeping on the side nearest the window, which is where the fan is, because he's a furnace and will overheat otherwise. I'm on the other side, Robb is in the middle, and Jerry is in Japan. We each have our own set of covers. (Which is a good thing, since I don't think we have any blankets wide enough to span the Pacific.)
You sort of need a bedroom. That is, a room that is all bed. Everyone is contained so no one falls out of bed and everyone can migrate around as needed.
It's funny that people ask, "How do you sleep?" because sleeping isn't the problem. I'm sure it is the waking hours that are much more interesting.
I have every confidence that it will work as long as there are strong bonds between all the members. The only quad I've had any experience with was more of a U shape instead of a circle.
Well, that makes much more sense...I was wondering how Jerry was getting back and forth at bedtime.
(also, if such a blanket exists, it's in Japan, Im sure)
How big is the bed? Or are there two beds side-by-side? I can't imagine even a king-size bed holding four big guys.
At the moment we have roughly a Cal-king (queen-sized futon turned sideways, plus an old flat futon folded in half at the end), which is comfortable for three.
I expect we'll go to two queens once we have a house; not sure yet whether we'll push them together or what.
And the blanket would not only have to be wide enough, it would have to be able to reach into the future! (though, you might check the linen closet, old forgotten knitted afghans from grandma tend to be pretty amazing objects....)
Edited at 2009-11-07 07:22 pm (UTC)
No. A blanket that size would allow the CU squirrels to get me here. This SHALL NOT HAPPEN. I'm safe from them for one full year, and I plan to keep it that way.
If you could each sleep at the point of a tetrahedron, then you would each be equidistant from each other, which could help maintain equality and symmetry in your relationships.
It does make finding a blanket to cover you all somewhat harder.
I'm thinking modular, wedge-shaped beds that you can rearrange at will. Or, hell, just make the room into a giant ball pit.
I guess I'm not shocked at the "how do you sleep" question. We have a king sized bed since I acquired the habit of wanting a bit more space than I could get on a queen with my ex. I sleep, as some would say, like Morticia Adams and I'm not comfortable unless I'm flat on my back. Repeat this with one person with wide shoulders and you have a semi-full bed. Add another wide-shouldered guy and it's more than a bit cozy.