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Fission [Nov. 5th, 2011|04:37 pm]
Beemer
So... our quad is splitting, into two couples. Greg and Robb are moving out and up to Fort Collins.

This may come as a surprise to friends and family, but it's... been coming for a while now.

I'm not sure I was ready for it to happen now (is one ever?), but it's not really a surprise that we've ended up here.

I have a lot of complex emotions about it. Mostly I'm sad. There are ways in which I'm relieved. But I'm not regretful. Going into this, we said: "It might work out, it might not. We're going to give it our best shot." And we did that. Relationships are difficult, and sometimes they end earlier than you hoped.

I'm okay. We're all okay.

(One upside: nobody's coming out of this alone. So there's that.)

Also -- please nobody feel like you need to pick sides. We're still on decent terms, and are well-equipped to share your friendship.
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[User Picture]From: joebehrsandiego
2011-11-05 10:50 pm (UTC)
Wishing all of you the best, my friend.
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[User Picture]From: pink_halen
2011-11-05 11:27 pm (UTC)
Hugs my friend. I'm here if you need a shoulder.

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[User Picture]From: thedragonweaver
2011-11-06 02:23 am (UTC)
(One upside: nobody's coming out of this alone. So there's that.)

Yes, that was kind of my thought, too. Though you apparently are now in need of cats.
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[User Picture]From: danthered
2011-11-06 02:29 am (UTC)
That's large. And yes, complicated; some won't/can't understand. Sounds like it is resolving as smoothly and easily as it can, for something as difficult and complicated as a(ny) relationship.
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[User Picture]From: epinoid
2011-11-06 12:07 pm (UTC)
Be gentle on yourselves. Even with an amiable parting there are going to be many emotions to process. hugs and good luck!
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[User Picture]From: rg_rothko
2011-11-06 06:13 pm (UTC)
There is a cat that jumped on our roof today. Perhaps he is looking for a new home, Zanon seemed to think he was trying to find an alternate entrance. If you're ever in need of pets. All you need to do is let me know and give me a week. Stray animals seem to seek out our house. In fact, I think there's a homeless black and white cat that's been hanging around, in addition to the white one on our roof.
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[User Picture]From: bryree
2011-11-06 07:38 pm (UTC)
Good thoughts and love your way (all of you) from us both.
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[User Picture]From: baronet
2011-11-06 09:39 pm (UTC)

Sympathy

You have my sympathy. Breakups are sucky.

Good Luck and Good Skill to you.
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[User Picture]From: dcseain
2011-11-07 02:24 am (UTC)
This kind of change is never fun, but it seems this is likely the best for all of you at this time. Peace!
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[User Picture]From: shirtlifterbear
2011-11-07 06:21 pm (UTC)
Again, I offer a *hug*
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[User Picture]From: bluebear2
2011-11-07 08:27 pm (UTC)
Whether relationships last a minute or a lifetime, they're all valid and important.
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[User Picture]From: goddessdster
2011-11-08 02:20 am (UTC)
I need to pick a side because you are the one I love. However, I totally respect and am unsurprised (because, c'mon, this is you we're talking about) that you are on decent terms. People find it a bit weird, I think, when they meet me and find I am still friends with the ex, but a foundation such as ours should not simply be tossed aside because our marriage failed.

Let me know if you need anything.
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[User Picture]From: annlarimer
2011-11-09 07:33 pm (UTC)
Aw, Doc, I'm really sorry. But I will always be proud that y'all gave it a go.
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